I can so relate to feeling shamed. I was carefully and thoroughly taught to believe that I was an obscenity and a monstrosity because I survived childhood sexual abuse from my father’s best friend. Even as late at 2002 in my 40’s, family members would remind me of my worthlessness. Because my grandmother actually saw “me” and gave me unconditional love, I knew that my family was wrong about me. I have learned to accept my past because it has formed me into the person I am today and I know I am fucking great!!!! I know I am perfectly imperfect!!! I am grateful to my trauma coach with whose guidance I have recently felt some very deep healing occur. I also know how shame can paralyze action. I practice giving myself grace as I give to others. Thank you again for sharing your wisdom with me. You do inspire me to take action and continue to learn.
I absolutely love it when people get to the point in their lives where they really know that living well and having a good life is the best revenge. Christine, I'm so sorry that you had such awful experiences and so delighted for you that you've turned it into gold. No shame in that!
Thank you Hanne. I am good at knowing there are blue skies above dark gray clouds and even if I do not know when, I do know I will see blue skies again.
I can so relate to feeling shamed. I was carefully and thoroughly taught to believe that I was an obscenity and a monstrosity because I survived childhood sexual abuse from my father’s best friend. Even as late at 2002 in my 40’s, family members would remind me of my worthlessness. Because my grandmother actually saw “me” and gave me unconditional love, I knew that my family was wrong about me. I have learned to accept my past because it has formed me into the person I am today and I know I am fucking great!!!! I know I am perfectly imperfect!!! I am grateful to my trauma coach with whose guidance I have recently felt some very deep healing occur. I also know how shame can paralyze action. I practice giving myself grace as I give to others. Thank you again for sharing your wisdom with me. You do inspire me to take action and continue to learn.
I absolutely love it when people get to the point in their lives where they really know that living well and having a good life is the best revenge. Christine, I'm so sorry that you had such awful experiences and so delighted for you that you've turned it into gold. No shame in that!
Thank you Hanne. I am good at knowing there are blue skies above dark gray clouds and even if I do not know when, I do know I will see blue skies again.